Don’t Listen to Your Peers

There is no better motivator than necessity.

When people complain about not having the proper time, energy, or motivation needed to accomplish some goal, I wonder about the strength of their incentives. If you needed to accomplish that goal, you would. If success were necessary for survival, nothing short of death would stop you.

This is the underlying reason for the lack of sympathy and encouragement starving artists and weekend warriors garner from their peers.

Unconsciously, everyone around you knows, if you are meant to get what you say you want, you won’t need support or encouragement. 

The more difficult and distant the goal, the less you can rely on the people around you. What can they do? If the goal is distant, a Universe away from your present situation, what can your peers offer?

Not much besides, “Don’t forget about us when you make it” or “You’ll never make it”

That’s all the help you can expect.

If that seems unfair, or unpleasant, your goal is no goal at all. It’s merely a fantasy.

Support and external validation are what you get at precisely the moment you no longer need them. They are what you get once you’ve already won, and nothing your supporters or detractors say has any relevance to your accomplishment.

This brings us to the core realization behind every successful ascension towards a better mode of being; beyond those people you have deliberately selected as mentors, nothing anyone says matters. No one knows what you should do.

The people around you will support when they feel charitable, and criticize once they’re jealous or annoyed by your ambition.

Those are not helpful feedbacks. Better to ignore them, and keep the line towards your goal as straight as possible.

 

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Philosophy. Spirituality. Psychology. Fiction. Other nouns.

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